"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain."
Someone just sent me this fairly long piece that I think is worth our thinking about, so rather than my giving you my views I’ll let you form your own opinion. That being said I do believe that more people are finding it harder to cope then I think they did in the last century even though it ended not that many years ago.
Staying positive in the 21st century
Apparently our bodies aren't cut out for living in this century. According to Dr. Andrew Weil, author of Spontaneous Happiness, a great many people struggling to stay positive and happy aren't depressed; they just don't have brains equipped for the 21st century. When I first read the headline "Don't Let Chaos Get You Down" in a recent issue of Newsweek, I was intrigued. My own brain, currently living in the 21st century wondered, "Huh? How could our brains -- many of which were created in the 21st century -- not be equipped to handle the life we're living?" Well, According to Dr. Weil, there more people have, the less likely they are to be happy. Modern life, complete with all of it's comforts and conveniences, seems to create a breeding ground for depression.
It might seem like a terrible way for the world's wealthiest to explain their personal struggles -- "oh, poor us, we have so much that it makes us sad!" -- but there is some solid logic behind it. You see, we humans weren't designed to live such sedentary lifestyles, eat such processed food, or spend hours and hours overstimulated by television and internet. Nature and in-person bonding have given way to spending extended amounts of time indoors, interacting with monitors and television screens, iPhones and iPads. Not that these are bad things -- in my mind, they are some of the greatest things! -- but we weren't necessarily made for living this lifestyle.
Maybe someday our bodies will adapt, but for our pre-industrial bodies are living in an increasingly modern world. So how do those living in a modern world cope with the negative aspects of it -- the isolation and the detachment from the lives our bodies were designed to be living? Below is the advice of Dr. Weil.
5 Tips for Staying Positive in the 21st Century
1. Learn to be present. Staying mindful is how we used to live. We didn't worry about the future or stress about the past because we were focused on survival and that's what are brains are used to. To be more in sync with yourself, stay in the present moment.
2. Adjust your sleep cycle. Humans are supposed to sleep when it's dark and be awake when it's light. Strive to sleep in complete darkness (get some dark curtains!) and go outside (or be near windows) during the day to keep your body in line with the natural light.
3. Interact socially. Tempting as it is to spend time online and consider that "social" time, remember that it's crucial that you interact with others in person. Humans, like most animals, are wired to need social interaction and it's crucial to make interacting with others a priority for your happiness.
4. Cultivate silence. Not all of the noises in today's world (or many of them, for that matter!) are ones that we're naturally used to. Many of them disturb and startle us, which is why it's a good idea to surround yourself with silence (or at least sounds of nature) whenever you can.
5. Limit technology use. Much as I love being online, on my iPhone, or on my iPad, those aren't necessarily the most natural states for my body to be in. To create a more positive experience for your body, limit your technology use when you can and reconnect with nature.
"Some people are always grumbling that roses have thorns. I am thankful that thorns have roses."-- Alphonse Karr
He said this, I didn’t, my wife does not allow these kinds of opinionjs.
Because I'm a man, when the car isn't running very well, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I'm looking at. If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things, but now with all these computers and everything, I wouldn't, know where to start." We will then drink beer.
Because I'm a man, when I catch a cold, I need someone to bring me soup and take care of me while I lie in bed and moan. You're a woman. You never get as sick as I do, so for you this isn't a problem.
Because I'm a man, I can be relied upon to purchase basic groceries at the store, like milk or bread. I cannot be expected to find exotic items like "cumin" or "tofu." For all I know, these are the same thing. And never, under any circumstances, expect me to pick up anything for which "feminine hygiene product" is a euphemism.
Because I'm a man, when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as, much once the repair person gets here and has to put it back together.
Because I'm a man, must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it (though one time I was able to survive by holding a calculator).
Because I'm a man, you don't have to ask me if I liked the movie. Chances are, if you're crying at the end of it, I didn't.
Because I'm a man, and this is, after all, the year 2011, I will share equally in the housework. You just do the laundry, the cooking, the gardening, the cleaning, the vacuuming, and the dishes, and I'll do the rest.
This has been a public service message for Women to Better Understand the Male.
If you look like your passport picture, you probably need the trip.
She said: My husband went on a sudden business trip, and I accompanied him. It soon became apparent that he could not wrap things up in one day, so his employer put us up for the night in a luxury hotel. We found a convenience store and purchased toothbrushes, a razor and other necessary items.
Finally we entered the lobby of the hotel, each of us toting a brown paper bag filled with supplies. The hotel manager looked us over.
Raising an eyebrow, he intoned haughtily, "Matched luggage?"
A liberal education makes your mind a pleasant place to spend your leisure time.
When the car engine developed a slight knock, Bob asked his wife if she had bought special or regular gas, but she couldn't remember. "You probably got the cheaper gas," he said. "That could account for the roughness of the engine."
"No, the gas wasn't cheaper!" she replied indignantly. "It cost the same as always. I told the man to put in the usual ten dollars worth."
One of life's best coping mechanisms is to know the difference between an inconvenience and a problem. If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you've got a problem. Everything else is an inconvenience. Life is inconvenient. Life is lumpy. A lump in the oatmeal, a lump in the throat and a lump in the breast are not the same kind of lump. One needs to learn the difference.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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