“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
The other day as I was driving home from a meeting with a friend I thought about the discussion we had. As I reviewed what had gone on in my mind I realized that I was participating from a place that focused on me. The more I thought about it I realized how much better it would have been if I would of thought about us before I thought about me.
As you know I view my friends as being some of my most precious gifts. I get great pleasure in their accomplishments and successes. I often get to share their joy as well as their tears. I have learned that it always sweeter when we share the good things in our lives so I wonder how often I might have missed an opportunity for mutual enjoyment because I never got past the “what’s in it for me” moment.
Wow, why has it taken me so long to see that if I always put “us” first when I am thinking about choices and opportunities I do two things. First I get to examine the possibilities of what more we might accomplish together while we enjoy doing it. Secondly I get the chance to make sure that I am not about to do something thoughtless that would be a problem for someone else. If I always think of “we” first I still can move to “me” and decide not to move ahead.
I have learned that nurturing friendships provides me a great platform from which we can join together as we face the world. Here are some tips to help take advantage of our “we” opportunities that I stole from the internet.
Accept others - A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.
Be a good listener - Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. Ed Cunningham
Enrich others’ life - Friendship is a treasured gift, and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer.
Understand first - Everyone looks at life through his own lens. Often we expect others to see life through the same lens as ours, but that will create a lot of problems. A true friend is someone who is willing to look through other people’s lenses first. He tries to understand why they think and act that way.
Find common ground - Finding common ground helps you connect with new friends quickly. The common ground allows you to talk to others about something they are interested in and thereby build relationships with them.
Be interested - If you want to be interesting you should first be interested. Be curious. Cultivate interest about many things. If you do that, you can genuinely be enthusiastic when people talk to you about something. People will feel appreciated and love to be around you.
Take initiative to help - If you treat others as good and trustworthy people, they will also treat you likewise. Believe in your heart that people are naturally good, even when they seem to be the opposite. People will feel how you believe in them and they will be touched by your sincerity.
Commend others - People need appreciation. They need to know that you appreciate them. Often we are quick to criticize but slow to commend. Let’s make it the opposite. Sincerely commend them when they do something right. Even better, commend them publicly.
See the positive side of others - A true friend knows you good enough to see your weaknesses but he still believes in your potential. To become a true friend, you should believe that your friends are good on the inside no matter how bad their outward appearance might be. It’s by this belief that you can sincerely encourage them.
“What I do you cannot do; but what you do, I cannot do. The needs are great, and none of us, including me, ever do great things. But we can all do small things, with great love, and together we can do something wonderful.”
Some more answering machine favorites:
When my grown children complain about the way they were raised, I always tell them that we did the best we could with what we had to work with.
Before Linda became engaged, she was quite the beauty, and didn't mind letting her boyfriend know it, too. "A lot of men are gonna be totally miserable when I marry," she told him.
"Really?" asked the boyfriend, "And just how many men are you intending to marry?"
Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you're in need of improvement.
An Amish lady is trotting down the road in her horse and buggy when she is pulled over by a cop. "Ma'am, I'm not going to ticket you, but I do have to issue you a warning. You have a broken reflector on your buggy."
"Oh, I'll let my husband, Jacob, know as soon as I get home."
"That's fine. Another thing, ma'am. I don't like the way that one rein loops across the horse's back and around one of his testicles. I consider that animal abuse. That's cruelty to animals. Have your husband take care of that right away!"
Later that day, the lady is home telling her husband about her encounter with the cop. "Well, dear, what exactly did he say?" asked the husband.
"He said the reflector is broken," replied the Amish lady.
"I can fix that in two minutes. What else?" asked the husband.
The wife replied, "I'm not sure, Jacob . . . Something about the emergency brake."
I'm not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I'm not dumb...and I'm also not blonde.
A doctor answers his phone and hears the familiar voice of a colleague on the other end of the line.
"We need a fourth for poker," said the friend.
"I'll be right over," whispered the doctor.
As he was putting on his coat, his wife asked, "Is it serious?"
"Oh yes, quite serious," said the doctor gravely. "In fact, there are three doctors there already!"
“You may not remember the time you let me go first.
Or the time you dropped back to tell me it wasn't that far to go.
Or the time you waited at the crossroads for me to catch up.
You may not remember any of those, but I do and this is what I have to say to you:
Today, no matter what it takes, we ride home together.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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