There are no strangers here; only friends you haven't yet met.
William Butler Yeats
I honestly believe that the most debilitating thing we face is not disease but lonesomeness and isolation. We no longer see the friends we had when we were working. Some of the folks who were are friends have moved and others have passed on. If we are not careful we find ourselves without the human connections that are so important to living a happy and fulfilling existence.
The good news is that it does not have to be that way, no matter your age or situation there are people out there that would love to be your friend. Unfortunately to many of us never give new friendships a chance. There is hardly a day that goes by that I don’t appreciate how many of you have become friends over the years.
Making new friends is not that hard, here are some tips that can help. I wish more people would follow the advice offered so I could discover even more friends. I had to do minor editing but kept the good stuff.
6 Steps to Relationship Success
By Eugene Yiga
Meeting people is easy. In addition to the traditional ways like friends, societies, and other social groups, we now have the internet too. And provided we're prepared to get out of our comfort zones, it shouldn't be too hard. But getting along with the people we meet is another matter. It's something a lot of us struggle with. Ultimately, it all comes down to developing social intelligence. That requires three things:
Relationships aren't meant to be taken seriously. So keep that in mind whenever it comes to approaching someone new. Be approachable by keeping your body language open. Know that they will enjoy your company.
Most of us try too hard to come up with clever things to say. But instead of worrying about your words, why not shut up and take a minute to listen? Take an interest in who they are. It starts with remembering their names but goes a lot further. Ask a lot of questions and encourage them to talk about their lives and the things they're going through.
The main aim of relationships is to connect with the thoughts and feelings other people are having. Doing so starts with maintaining eye contact (without staring) but also goes a lot further. Oftentimes, rephrasing something they've said is a good way to show you understand the emotion behind the message. They'll be far more inclined to connect with you if you're prepared to show this level of commitment.
Don't use the conversation to show off how knowledgeable you are about things nobody might even care about. And don't use it as a chance to complain about other people or your problems. In other words, don't talk for the sake of talking. If you don't have anything good to say, you're better off not speaking at all.
Remember that the conversation is not about you, as much as you'd like that to be the case. Instead, make it about the other person. Ask people about their lives and take a real interest in what they have to say. When they ask the same of you, it's time to make the connection. Start by finding common ground. So find whatever similarities you can and make them known.
Relationships are ultimately about opening up and connecting. You can't do that if you're simply focused on keeping things strictly professional. Take the time to get to know new people in your life. Slowly open up by sharing your life and encourage them to do the same. That builds trust. Sometimes you may hit a wall, in which case it might be advisable to simply keep things light. Even relationships like that have their place. But wherever possible, try to find a connection and let it grow. Show love and support because that's what we're here for.
A friend is what the heart needs all the time.
Henry Van Dyke
"Definition of Success"
You can use most any measure
When you're speaking of 'Success'.
You can measure it in fancy home,
Expensive car or dress.
But....the measure of your REAL success
Is the one you can not spend.
It's the way your kids describe YOU
When they're speaking to a friend!
Don't assume malice for what stupidity can explain.
Chaim Potok, the best selling author and an unlikely art connoisseur, telephoned his mother and told her that he had just bought a Rubens.
"Rubin? Rubin the delicatessen man?"
"No, Mama, Rubens is a painter," he explained kindly.
"Oh, this I didn't know," she said breathlessly. Listen, Chaim, ask him how much he'll charge to paint the kitchen!"
The cost of living hasn't affected its popularity.
I took my son to his first Major League baseball game when he was four. The game was delayed, so we spent our time talking and eating everything the concession had to offer: Hot dogs, pretzels, nachos, pizza, soda, peanuts, ice cream, and cotton candy.
About a year later, I asked my son if he'd like to go to another game. He thought about it for a moment and then replied, "No, thanks, Dad. I'm really not that hungry."
I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let's face it, friends make life a lot more fun.
Charles R. Swindoll
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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