"You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there."
Edwin Louis Cole
Lately I am running into more and more folks who are so overloaded that all they do is run just to keep up. I too have sometimes have taken on so much that I had a hard time coping with it all. Fortunately I have found that we don’t have to burden ourselves to the point where we unhappily bend or even break.
If you are like I am you sometimes find yourself taken over by events and self-imposed obligations that leave little or no time to stop, refresh or even just breathe. Some of us are afraid to take time for ourselves because we feel we need to prove our worth to others by doing more than is reasonable. At least in my case my best friend, me, reminds me that I neither do myself or anyone else any good if I end up floundering in water over my head because I went too far.
I have often found that tears can be stopped and replaced with at least a little tranquility if only we would just stop, realize what is going on and take a break. It seems like most of us know the value of clearing the decks for a real (I left my work behind) vacation and yet we fail to recognize the almost daily need we have to pull away from it all for some quite time.
Last year I got an article written by Adele Ryan McDowell that included a section saying that we don’t have to live in a state of constant overload, all we have to do is stop once in a while. I may be naive but I think even those who have jobs that require from them more than what they can happily bear would benefit by stopping and taking stock if it is really worth it and decide to move on. Here is what Dr. McDowell wrote.
I know, it's a unique thought. To be happy and balanced, I suggest you need to stop and allow yourself to course correct and re-find your center:
May I suggest you take a few deep breath breaks during your day? You will bring yourself back to center, re-oxygenate your body, and tap into the here and now.
Ready for more ways to re-find some balance in your life and increase your state of happiness -- and creativity, too?
• A few hours before bed, unplug all technology. Give yourself some time when you are not required to respond, react, or do. End the mental gymnastics for the day and wind down.
• Employ a daily ritual of quiet time. This can be 20 or 30 minutes of quiet time where you sit with yourself. You can journal, meditate, watch the flickering of a candle, listen to beautiful (melody only) music, and the like. Draw a perimeter around your sanctuary of quietude.
• Take at least one day off a week. Have a full non-work day where you can play, have fun, rest, relax, or just be a slug. We all need time to refill the well. If we run consistently on empty, our ideas, energies, and creativity become compromised. Be inventive, and find revivifying ways to nurture your overworked self.
• Say "No" -- or, at the very least, "I will think about it and get back to you." Ask yourself, does this request make me feel happy? Does it nourish or feed me in some way? Does it excite me? Think twice. Life is short. And you hold the key to your personal well-being.
"Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do."
A life insurance agent was speaking to a would-be client:
"Don't let me frighten you into making a hasty decision. Sleep on it tonight. If you wake in the morning, give me a call then and let me know."
Better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot.
Honorable Secretary of Agriculture
My friend, Ed Peterson, over at Wells Iowa, received a check for $1,000 from the government for not raising hogs. So, I want to go into the "not raising hogs" business next year.
What I want to know is, in your opinion, what is the best kind of farm not to raise hogs on, and what is the best breed of hogs not to raise? I want to be sure that I approach this endeavor in keeping with all governmental policies. I would prefer not to raise razorbacks, but if that is not a good breed not to raise, then I will just as gladly not raise Yorkshires or Durocs.
As I see it, the hardest part of this program will be in keeping an accurate inventory of how many hogs I haven't raised.
My friend, Peterson, is very joyful about the future of the business. He has been raising hogs for twenty years or so, and the best he ever made on them was $422 in 1968, until this year when he got your check for $1000 for not raising hogs.
If I get $1000 for not raising 50 hogs, will I get $2000 for not raising 100 hogs? I plan to operate on a small scale at first, holding myself down to about 4000 hogs not raised, which will mean about $80,000 the first year. Then I can afford an airplane.
Now another thing, these hogs I will not raise will not eat 100,000 bushels of corn. I understand that you also pay farmers for not raising corn and wheat. Will I qualify for payments for not raising wheat and corn not to feed the 4000 hogs I am not going to raise?
Also, I am considering the "not milking cows" business, so send me any information you have on that too.
Never underestimate the power of very stupid people in large groups.
Manny was almost 29 years old. Most of his friends had already gotten married, and Manny just bounced from one relationship to the next. Finally a friend asked him, "What's the matter, are you looking for the perfect woman? Are you THAT particular? Can't you find anyone who suits you?"
"No," Manny replied. "I meet a lot of nice girls, but as soon as I bring them home to meet my parents, my mother doesn't like them. So I keep on looking!"
"Listen," his friend suggested, “Why don't you find a girl who's just like your dear ole Mother?"
Many weeks past before Manny and his friend got together again.
"So Manny. Did you find the perfect girl yet. One that's just like your Mother?"
Manny shrugged his shoulders, "Yes I found one just like Mom.
My mother loved her, they became great friends."
"Excellent!!! So,.... Are you and this girl engaged, yet?"
"I'm afraid not. My Father can't stand her!"
You can't start the next chapter in your life if you keep re-reading the last one.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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