“You can't keep blaming yourself. Just blame yourself once, and move on.”
It has been an interesting week so far. A project I am loosely affiliated with is at a critical juncture. Rather than wait for all the players to discuss what might be done as time runs out I decided to jump in and do what I can to break the log jam.
In addition, a recent Daily where I mourned the loss of a friendship triggered a response from an Ohio Daily reader who was having the same experience and it seemed that we both benefited from being grateful for what we had and our ability to move on.
I also had breakfast with two friends who are members of the same family who gave me credit for making a positive change in their lives more than 20 years ago, an event that I did not realize at the time was so important. Our conversations again reminded me of how vital it is to be ready to help whenever you can, for often a moment of your time and a kind action can change someone’s life forever.
I am truly grateful that I have been given so many opportunities to listen to others and to care about the burdens they carry, for while I may not be able to solve their problems more often than not our conversations result in their rising above whatever is holding them down and they move on.
I like what Ralph Marston has to offer about dealing with reality and not letting what we cannot change hold us back. Here is what he had to say:
There is nothing wrong. There is simply what is, and what you choose to make of it.
If you spend all your energy on judgment, there's no energy left for progress. And judgment doesn't pay the bills.
You have the opportunity to create something beautiful. It starts with accepting and valuing what already is.
Life's energy comes to you, and you can do with it whatever you please. Very little of what comes your way is under your control before it gets to you, but every bit of what you do with it is yours to decide.
Instead of fighting battles that are already over, simply accept that things are as they are. Then look closely with a positive purpose, and you'll find plenty of opportunities for creating meaningful value.
Life is bringing you amazing possibilities right now. Let them come, let them be, and find joy in making the very best of them.
I think too many of us waste so much time talking to ourselves or others about what we might do that we often miss the opportunity to move forward and build on what we have. When we are so anchored that we convince ourselves that we are stuck forever it is important to realize it is not the anchor that is holding us back, it is the chain that attaches us to the anchor. All we have to do is cut the chain and leave the anchor stuck in the past as we get on with our lives.
“Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do.
But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.”
A young couple got married and when they got back from their honeymoon, the bride immediately called her mother. "Well, how was the honeymoon?" asked the mother.
"Oh Momma! she exclaimed. "The honeymoon was wonderful! So romantic!"
No sooner had she spoken those words, she burst out crying. "But Momma, as soon as we returned, Sam started using the most horrible language. He's been saying things I've never heard before! All these awful four-letter words! You've got to come and get me and take me home. Please Momma!"
"Now, Lisa..." her mother answered "Calm down! Tell me, what could be so awful? What four-letter words has he been using?"
"Please don't make me tell you, Momma," wept the daughter. "I'm so embarrassed! They're just too awful! You've got to come get me and take me home. "Please Momma!"
"Darling baby, you must tell me what has you so upset. Tell your mother these horrible four-letter words."
Still sobbing, the bride replied, "Oh Momma... words like dust, wash, iron, and cook!"
"Give a man a fish, and you'll feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he'll buy a funny hat. Talk to a hungry man about fish, and you're a consultant."
Sue: I just don't share the enthusiasm some new parents have for babies.
Barb: Yeah, I know what you mean.
Sue: Last week I spent a whole afternoon with Janie and her two brats, and my Fallopian tubes tied themselves!
It may sound strange, but many champions are made champions by setbacks.
An old farmer became weak and disabled, he couldn't work the fields anymore. So he would spend the day just sitting on the porch. His son, still working the farm, would look up from time to time and see his father sitting there. "He's of no use any more," the son thought to himself, "he doesn't do anything!"
One day the son got so frustrated by this, that he built a good wooden coffin, dragged it over to the porch, and told his father to get in. Without saying anything, the father climbed inside. After closing the lid, the son dragged the coffin to the edge of the farm where there was a high cliff. As he approached the drop, he heard a light tapping on the lid from inside the coffin. He opened it up. Still lying there peacefully, the father looked up at his son. "I know you are going to throw me over the cliff, but before you do, may I suggest something?"
"What is it?" replied the son.
"Throw me over the cliff, if you like," said the father, "but save this fine wooden coffin. Your children might need to use it."
I know why families were created, with all their imperfections. They humanize you.
They are made to make you forget yourself occasionally, so that the beautiful balance of life is not destroyed.
The guy came hobbling into the doctor's waiting room, assisted by his wife and in obvious pain. The poor man could hardly move. When the nurse called his name, he could barely walk. Bent over and grimacing with pain, he shuffled along, his hands like two rigid claws. The nurse looked on sympathetically. "Oh dear," she said. "What is it? Arthritis with complications?"
"No," said the guy's wife. "Do-It-Yourself with concrete blocks."
“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.”
Mary Anne Radmacher
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