“Find your focus by seeking all that is good in your life.”
For many of us it will soon be the holiday season and then we will begin a new year. It is not a time for us to dwell on what may be wrong in our lives it is rather a time to celebrate what is right in our fives. If you live as long as I have you will have learned many times over that the old adage of “what you sow you will reap” applies. It is unfortunate that so many of us fail to invest in our own happiness.
It is never too late to make some positive life improvement moves. Here is an abridged article written by Dani DiPirro that offers ways to bring more happiness into our lives.
How to Make Your Life Uncommonly Good
RULE 1: EXAMINE + ENGAGE IN LIFE
The first rule of living a good life is knowing how important it is to explore the world and be curious about your environment. We instinctively do this as children, but it should be a lifelong practice. You can't live if a good life if you're not really living.
RULE 2: (TRY TO) WORRY LESS
Worry is, unfortunately, a part of life, but how much you worry -- and what you worry about -- can impact how good your life is. It's important to try your best to worry only about the things you can control. Learning how to quickly identify what you can control vs. what's out of your hands is one of the best ways to minimize worries.
RULE 3: CHERISH FRIENDSHIPS
As humans, we crave connection and affection. Whether you're the type of person that has countless friends or you prefer a few close pals, friendship -- and the connections and life lessons that come along with those relationships -- are invaluable. No amount of wealth, power, success, fame or any other measure of success can beat the positive benefits of a good friendship.
RULE 4: FOCUS ON TRUE JOY
In life there are plenty of things that make us feel good, but not all of those things should be the focus. Living a good life means avoiding shallow, meaningless, or fleeting pleasures and instead focusing on meaningful, deep joys that have lasting effects. For instance, consider the feeling of eating a giant slice of cake vs. the feeling of having an inspiring conversation. Both feel good in the moment, but the long-term impacts are very different.
RULE 5: KNOW WHO YOU ARE
Personally, I think this should be number 1! To live a good life, it's essential to know yourself, to be self-reliant, to cultivate self-love. Equally as important is focusing on what's true, not what's convenient. Self-deception is all too common for many of us, but it does us no good to convince ourselves of things that are untrue.
RULE 6: FIND BALANCE + HARMONY
As you might already know, too much of anything (even the good stuff!) can be a bad thing, which is why, to live a good life, it's important to avoid excess. In all areas of life -- home, relationships, love, work, etc. -- it's a good idea to strive for balance. Overindulging in the good stuff can lead to what I think of as a "happiness hangover," but depriving yourself of fun (and a little bit of bad behavior!) it's great either. Find what balance means for you and strive for that.
RULE 7: ADHERE TO POSITIVE VALUES
This rule really comes down to one basic concept: be a decent human being. When you've done wrong, accept responsibility. Whenever possible, be honest with yourself and with others. It's vital to be accountable for your choices and actions. What you value is up to you, but figuring out those values and sticking to them throughout your life is one of the best ways to ensure you're living a good life.
RULE 8: PROSPER WITH CAUTION
With any luck, you'll have an wonderful opportunity to prosper in this life, to flourish financially and achieve great success. If this happens (and I hope it does!), be cautious and thoughtful in your choices. I imagine it's difficult not to get carried away, but one of the keys to living a good life is being rational with your resources (whatever those might be!).
RULE 9: DO HARM TO NO ONE
This might sound like an obvious rule for a good life, but it's an important one. To live well, strive to harm no one -- including yourself. Hurting others hurts you too (even if, for whatever reason, you feel as if they deserve to be hurt). Speak with kindness, focus on forgiveness, have compassion, embrace empathy, and, above all, try to cultivate as much love as you can for your fellow humans.
RULE 10: BE ENDLESSLY KIND
Kindness is mandatory for living a good life. Not only does kindness make the world a better place, but every time you're kind, you feel good. Also, regardless of whether or not you believe in karma, if you pay attention to how kindness plays out in your own life, you'll find that your kind deeds are often rewarded or returned in some way.
Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.
Joey's teacher sent a note home to his Mother saying, "Joey seems to be a very bright boy, but spends too much of his time thinking about girls."
The Mother wrote back the next day, "If you find a solution, please advise. I have the same problem with his Father."
If your parents never had children, chances are you won't, either.
A police officer stops a blonde for speeding and asks her very nicely if he could see her license.
She replied in a huff, "I wish you guys would get your act together. Yesterday you took my license away and today you expect me to show it to you!"
Constant change is here to stay.
On his honeymoon, a very thick redneck farmer, Billy Joe, insisted on having a room at the luxury hotel with a balcony overlooking the sea. On retiring for the night after the wedding, his new bride emerged from the bathroom dressed in some very sexy lingerie. "Hey Billy Joe, come in off the balcony and see what I have waiting for you to savor for the first time" she said coyly.
"No thanks, I want to sit out here," he said.
So Daisy sat down brushing her golden hair for 10 minutes after which she invited Billy Joe once more to come in off the balcony to take pleasure of her virginal body. Once more he refused. Eventually Daisy grew tired of waiting and she retired to the wedding bed and fell asleep. In the morning, she awoke to find him still sitting on the balcony.
"Why did you spend the whole night out there when you could have been making love all night?" she asked.
"Well my pa said the first night of my marriage would be the most beautiful night of my whole life - and I didn't want to miss a moment of it."
They told me I was gullible -- and I believed them.
A man came hobbling into the doctor's waiting room, assisted by his wife. The poor guy could hardly move. He was bent over and grimacing with pain as he shuffled along, his hands like two rigid claws.
The receptionist looked on sympathetically. "Oh dear," she said. "Arthritis with complications?"
"No," said the guy's wife. "Do-it-yourself with concrete blocks."
"Baseball is ninety percent mental. The other half is physical."
My niece, after living in several apartments, found one in the area where she had grown up.
"The best thing about this apartment," she said to her sister, "is that it's within walking distance of the grocery store."
"What grocery store? I don't recall a close by grocery store replied her sister..
"You know....." my niece said.... "Mom's house."
Every day, it’s important to ask and answer these questions: “What’s good in my life?” and “What needs to be done?”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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