“Make the most of yourself....for that is all there is of you.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of the things that I feel bad about is how many people I know who don’t realize how good they really are. These friends have a tendency to take for granted the very things that make them special, the things they do every day that work. Give yourself credit for your kindness, you get points for just being there doing what you do.
I wish these folks would take inventory of what things go on in their lives that they do well and makes them happy. The big things don’t count as much as the smiles and helping hands that pile up as time goes by. Yep, your special, when you know it speak up with confidence. We not only like you we need you. Here is some thoughts on hpow you can let us know about you.
10 Secrets to Expressing Yourself with Confidence
By Tricia Greaves ***
1. How you feel and what you need are just as important as the feelings and needs of others. Instead of always dismissing your ideas and feelings as "not that important," you need to value them and see that you are equal to all others. WHAT YOU FEEL AND THINK IS WORTHY OF BEING HEARD.
2. You will not die from saying how you feel. At one time I believed that either I would die, or others would die from hearing my honest feelings and opinions (I am not talking about being hurtful.) Only by practicing speaking up have I learned that this is not the case at all. Not only did I not die, I have become empowered.
3. You will not die if someone disagrees with your decisions. I thought I would crumble without the approval of others, but when I was willing to feel the initial uncomfortable feelings I experienced when others did not agree with or like my decisions, I got stronger and the fear of such feelings got weaker.
4. When you follow your own heart, people around you may at first be uncomfortable, but THEY ADJUST! It amazed me that no matter how threatened others were with the "new me," when I persisted in doing what was right for me, they eventually settled down and got used to my new ways; in fact, they even respected me for them!
5. By being true to yourself, and thriving on account of it, you are setting an example that will inspire others to step out and make changes. Your gift to yourself of changing is also a gift to others.
6. It is no one's responsibility to read you mind. YOU MUST SPEAK UP! You can't blame others for not doing it "your way" when you are not even willing to express yourself and what you want! I no longer feel "misunderstood," because I speak up and give others an opportunity to understand me!
7. Resentments come from not speaking up and being heard. Resentments erode your soul and your health.
8. Practice listening to others. I was so busy obsessing about my own feelings, what I wanted to say, and how others would receive me that I did not pay close attention to the ideas and feelings of others. When I put aside thoughts about me, and truly listened to others, I found that others began to truly listen to me!
9. "Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean." Practice saying what you mean in a direct way, with kindness and respect.
10. Give yourself permission to be awkward as you begin to speak up. This is not an easy transition to make. Know that at first you may stumble over your words, you may not get your point across, and that others may not like your speaking up. Just because others may not agree with what you say does not mean that your beliefs are wrong. HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH! Everyone respects people who risk being the minority voice. And you will be surprised to find that often others will join you and you will become the majority voice.
Self-esteem comes from taking risks and being YOU, not from the approval of others. So speak up, and notice how many people begin to listen up!
Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.
A former manager of the New York Yankees once told about a dream he had in which he died and went to heaven. There he was ordered to organize and manage a ball team. He said he was overwhelmed by all the available talent - Christy Mathewson, Walter Johnson, Rube Waddell, Babe Ruth, Lou Gehrig, and many other superstars.
Just then the phone rang. It was Satan calling to challenge the heavenly team to a game. "But you haven't got a chance of winning," said the manager. "You see I got all the great ball players up here."
Satan explained, "Oh, I know that. But I've got all the umpires!"
It's kind of fun to do the impossible.
One of my friends got a speeding ticket and was attending a defensive driving course to have points erased from her license. The instructor, a police officer, emphasized that being on time was crucial, and that the classroom doors would be locked when each session began.
Just after one class started, someone knocked on the locked door. The officer opened it and asked, "Why are you late?"
The student replied, "I was trying not to get another ticket."
Life's briefest moment is the time between reading the sign on the freeway and realizing you just missed your exit.
A teacher was asked her class, "What is the difference between 'unlawful' and 'illegal'?"
Little Johnny quickly raised his hand.
"Ok, answer, Johnny," said the teacher.
"'Unlawful' is when you do something the law doesn't allow and 'Illegal' is a sick bird."
Never read the fine print. There ain't no way you're going to like it.
After hitting his tee shot deep into the woods, the golfer turned to his caddie. "Did you see where that one went?" he asked.
"No sir, as a matter of fact I didn't," replied the caddie.
"Well, why didn't you watch where it went?" snapped the angry man.
"Frankly, sir," said the caddie, "I was quite unprepared for it to go anywhere."
There is a guaranteed way to get what you want: want less.
At a suburban dinner party, a curvaceous blonde was the center of attraction. She stood in the middle of the room surrounded by almost every male in the place. Finally, one woman turned to her husband and meowed, "I don't see what they see in her."
"I don't either," replied her husband as he started across the room. "I think I'll take a closer look."
The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Doug goes to a doctor and says: "Doctor, my wife recently has lost her voice. What should I do to help her get it back?"
The doctor replies, "Try coming home at 3 in the morning!"
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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