"You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime."
I had breakfast yesterday with two of my favorite people, one is the Executive Director of a respected community organization and the other is a top administrator of one of our most important universities. One of the things we did was brainstorm generating ideas for an event where seniors will learn more about things that interest them.
During the conversations we again realized that while facts are important when lecturing it is more important that we reach the audience and stimulate their thought processes. It is the instructor who is an effective communicator and engages their audience that plants the seeds for intellectual growth. Body language, friendliness and effective word selection that can make a real difference.
I like the following article written by Bob Perks, I hope you like it as well
When There's Nothing We Can Do
"Out of all that you possess, what do you believe is the most valuable?" he asked me.
"Rich, you know me well enough to know I put little value on things in my life. So, this, for me, is a difficult question," I replied.
"It's not the same answer for everyone and yet, most people put little, if any, value on this," he said.
Rich is a man with more energy than any one person should have. When he is speaking with you he talks to everyone around you. When he is in a room everyone knows it. He is not boisterous, rude or obnoxious. He is just super happy and friendly with everyone he meets.
There are times when I see people and wish out loud, "I want to be that happy." I'm not sure I'd want to be as happy as Rich. He sometimes exhausts me. I thought about what he said for a few minutes while he scanned the people nearby.
"Hey, this is Bobby Perks. He's a big time writer!" he said to someone. I, in turn, wanted to hide. "Well, I would guess I would say I value my home. It's a simple one, big enough for Marianne and I, but I would guess shelter would have to be at the top of my list."
"Good answer. I knew you wouldn't say your car. You don't drive a fancy one. You don't wear a watch or fancy jewelry. You're right, stuff doesn't matter to you."
"So, what's your answer?"
"Your words. Not because you are a writer and a speaker. I believe that you own your words and many people don't. You care about what you say."
He gives me more credit than I deserve for I have, like some people, said things I regretted later. I thought about "owning my words." They say that actions speak louder than words, but people tend to say things without really thinking. Words build up or tear down. Words inspire or insult. The first words spoken have made lovers out of strangers. The last words whispered may ease a mourners pain. Words spoken in anger are often forgiven, but rarely forgotten.
"Just what I needed to hear!" means God spoke through you. You are what you say and how you say it.
Matthew 12:37 "For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."
Sometimes words are all we have when there's nothing we can do.
"The basic building block of good communications is the feeling that every human being is unique and of value."
Did you know that:
Karaoke is a Japanese word meaning "tone deaf".
Sleep is that fleeting moment just before the alarm goes off.
A cynic is someone who smells the flowers and looks for the casket.
The answer is what everybody is still looking for.
I'm not aging, I just need re-potting.
After the christening of his baby brother in church, little Johnny sobbed all the way home in the back seat of the car. His father asked him three times what was wrong. Finally, the boy replied, "That priest said he wanted us brought up in a Christian home, and I want to stay with you guys!"
Lord, if I can't be skinny, let all my friends be fat.
After being with his blind date all evening, the man couldn't take another minute with her. Earlier, he had secretly arranged to have a friend call him to the phone so he would have an excuse to leave if something like this happened.
When he returned to the table, he lowered his eyes, put on a grim expression and said, "I have some bad news. My grandfather just died."
"Thank heavens," his date replied. "If yours hadn't, mine would have had to!"
"Every generalization is dangerous, especially this one."
A guy walked into a pro-shop with a gorilla. "Is anyone interested in a little wager?" he said, flashing some large bills around. "I've got $500.00 here that says my gorilla can hit the ball longer and straighter than anybody here at this club. In fact, he hits it 500 yards ...right down the middle...every time!"
Everyone in the pro-shop started laughing. After a moment the newest pro at the club and the longest hitter in the area spoke up, "I gotta see this!" he said. "You know, what? I'll take you up on that wager! Meet you on the first tee."
When they reached the 585-yard par-5 first tee the trainer led the gorilla to the tee box, put a driver in his hands, set a tee in the ground. The gorilla did the rest.
Sure enough, he smashed his drive right down the middle and clear out of sight. When the ball finally came to rest it was on the green -6 inches from the cup.
The pro was astonished. "That's incredible!" he exclaimed. "How did you train him to hit the ball like that! There's no need for me to tee off. I couldn't beat him with a stick. Here's your money."
As the pro walked off the green, still shaking his head, he turned back to the trainer and said "Oh, by the way, how does he putt?"
The trainer responded, "Just like he drives: 500 yards. Right down the middle. Every time."
You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can't get them across, your ideas won't get you anywhere.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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