It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.
I remember when my wife and I seemed to live from one major event to another. It might be a cruise, a trip to another state, a major theatrical event or the like. As of late our activities are often controlled by what is thrust upon us. Illness, cancelled trips and the slowing down of friends can make later life look humdrum, gray and dull. In truth we end up living day-to-day dealing with whatever comes our way.
It may not seem all that exciting but what it does do is let us appreciate the little things more and especially appreciate the goodness of the people around us. We may not spend as much time in Adventureland but we do appreciate the comforts of home and the folks who warm our hearts.
What about you? Do you enjoy your days? If you would like to appreciate them more the following edited article may provide the answer.
5 Fun Ways to Fall In Love With Your Everyday Life
By Dr. Kate Siner
If you find that each of your days fade into the next, remember: Nothing is wrong with your life and nothing is wrong with you! It's just that in reality -- some of life is just not that exciting. However, you can do some simple things to shake things up, break the rut, and put some "WOW" into our normal, ordinary days. In other words: To really get the most out of life, we need to learn to make the most out of life.
Doing this is easier and more fun than you might expect. Best of all, it doesn't require that you climb a mountain or win the lottery to achieve it. So here are five fun ways to love the life you're living right here, right now:
Celebrate the super small stuff
We're the "meaning makers" of our life. If we don't create meaning, appreciate the little things, celebrate our wins, and mourn our losses, then regardless of how good it gets nothing is going to feel that special.
There are some celebrations that you probably already observe (like birthdays and major holidays), but how do you celebrate your little wins? What goal did you reach that's deserving of a high-five? Know that when you get a tiny raise, work out faithfully for a month, spend two years at a job, or even adopt a dog ... it all matters. So, dedicate time to celebrating you and the ones you love.
Accept a fun challenge
When you look back on your life, you might notice that some of your most challenging times become the most meaningful. Challenges make us focus, think, and call on resources that we didn't know we had. Overcoming a challenge helps us feel significant and accomplished.
Pick something that you'd like achieve and set a goal for yourself. Or, take a risk to start something you've always wanted to do but have been afraid to try. And when you reach your goal -- that's right -- celebrate it! Whether it's learning a language, building a backyard deck, or finally organizing your online photos into albums, set a goal and make a game of achieving it.
Notice what a wonderful world you live in
One of the fastest ways to create meaning in your life is to look for things you're grateful for. So play a little "I-Spy" with your life. Call out what you already appreciate at home, at work, or with friends. Take a moment during breakfast or dinner to turn to a loved one (or friend) and tell them one thing you're grateful for, excited about, or intrigued by from your day.
Another approach is to tell one person per week how grateful you are for them or something that they've done. The great thing here is that when you express your gratitude, while those around you feel appreciated and noticed. It's a win for all involved.
Get curious when things don't go as expected
Most of us have unconscious expectations about how the details of our lives "should" go down. At the very least, we all have hopes that our lives will turn out in a particular way. When you're preoccupied with comparing what you have against what you think you should have, you're not able to appreciate what you have for what it is. It's that simple.
But let's get real here. Paying attention to what actually IS working in your day-to-day life is not about adopting a fake, sunny disposition about a crappy job or a hard situation. It's about getting clear on what's important to you and learning how to find it in your current situation.
Remember to feel your way through life
When we're bored or checked out, that's our reminder to check back in and ask ourselves, "What is it that I want to feel and how can I bring more of it into my day?"
One good way to move into each day is starting off in bed each morning asking yourself how you'd like to feel that day. How would you like to feel as you move through it? If there's a hard or challenging aspect of your day ahead, see if you can come up with a way to deal with it that handles the situation but also feels best for you.
As you go forward, build on and develop these five skills to start adding more actual enjoyment to your daily life. But, don't worry if you have some days where you feel flat. It's normal. Remember that you can always wake up tomorrow and ask yourself, "What would I like today to feel like?"
In seed time learn, in harvest teach, in winter enjoy.
A golfer is in a competitive match with a friend, who is ahead by a couple of strokes. The golfer says to himself, 'I'd give anything to sink this next putt.' A stranger walks up to him and whispers, 'Would you give up a fourth of your sex life?'
The golfer thinks the man is crazy and that his answer will be meaningless, but also that perhaps this is a good omen, so he says, 'Okay,' and sinks the putt. Two holes later he mumbles to himself, 'Boy, if I could only get an eagle on this hole.' The same stranger moves to his side and says, 'Would it be worth another fourth of your sex life?'
The golfer shrugs and says, 'Sure.' He makes an eagle. On the final hole, the golfer needs yet another eagle to win. Though he says nothing, the stranger moves to his side and says, 'Would you be willing to give up the rest of your sex life to win this match?'
The golfer says, 'Certainly!' He makes the eagle.
As the golfer walks to the club house, the stranger walks alongside and says, 'You know, I've really not been fair with you because you don't know who I am. I'm the devil, and from now on you will have no sex life.'
'Nice to meet you,' says the golfer. 'My name's Father O'Malley.'
Someday we'll look back on all this and plow into a parked car.
Some billboards gained attention in Cleveland. Some reported seeing one or two messages, but the newspaper listed all of them. Here's a list of all variations of the "God Speaks" billboards. The billboards are a simple black background with white text. No fine print or sponsoring organization is included. These are awesome...enjoy.
Let's meet at my house Sunday before the game. -God
C'mon over and bring the kids. -God
What part of "Thou Shalt Not..." didn't you understand? -God
That "Love Thy Neighbor" thing... I meant it. -God
Will the road you're on get you to my place? -God
You think it's hot here? -God
Have you read my #1 best seller? There will be a test. -God
Do you have any idea where you're going? -God
Don't make me come down there. -God
If I were you, who'd be me?
... she has an uncanny way of standing between me and the television screen. Bases loaded, two strikes, three balls. The crowd goes wild, the pitch flies, and all I can see is her back side.
Howard, Dodge City, Kan.
... what's mine is hers. I buy her negligees; she sleeps in my T-shirts. When she's cold she wears my wool socks to bed, never her own. She steals my half-used razors; new ones are too sharp. She even wears my boxers. I'm tempted to switch to briefs just to see what she'd do.
Dave, Martha's Vineyard, Mass.
“Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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