Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made.
We have talked a lot lately about taking control of our lives. Things like making sure we give ourselves time for what is important to us and clearing our minds of the clutter that so often prevents us from investing in our own happiness. I know from personal experience it is often easier said than done. It helps if we reexamine the processes we use to deal with our challenges and opportunities. Many times it requires us to change our behavior in order to do a better job taking care of ourselves while freeing us up to pursue a more positive life style. The ever wise Marc Chernoff in a recent article suggests some things we can do for ourselves to help deal with how we handle our future. I think he is offering sound advice so I have taken the liberty of making some slight edits in order to add it to today’s Daily.
5 Things YOU Should Be an Expert At
1. Being unapologetically YOU. − To imitate others is to never truly live. It’s like YOU never existed.
From now on, forget about what everyone else is doing. Forget about what kind of person you think they want you to be and just be the most authentic version of the person you are. Let who you are and what you believe shine through in every word you speak and every move you make.
2. Living through love. − Every human thought, word and deed is based on fear or love. Fear is an inner energy that contracts, closes down, draws in, hides, hoards and harms. When you live through fear, you pull back from life. Love is an inner energy that expands, opens up, sends out, reveals, shares and heals. When you live through love, you open to all that life has to offer with passion and acceptance.
3. Learning from mistakes. − Mistakes are part of life’s natural course. Everyone makes mistakes; you are not immune. The only question is: Do you want them to help you or hurt you? This decision is one of primary factors that defines your character.
If you lie about having made a mistake, then it can’t be corrected and it festers. On the other hand, if you give up just because you made a mistake, even a big one, you will never get anywhere worth going in life.
Successful people learn from their mistakes. By doing so, an error becomes the raw material out of which all future successes are invented. Failure is not a crime. The failure to learn from failure is. Ultimately, mistakes are the price you pay for a full, rewarding life.
4. Forgiving your past. − The practice of forgiveness is your most important contribution to the healing of YOUR world.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
You have to forgive. You don’t have to like what happened, you don’t have to cherish the memories, you don’t have to hold on to the people and circumstances involved, but you do have to forgive them, let go, make peace with your past and move on with your present
5. Creating your own happiness. − As Abraham Lincoln so profoundly said, “We are just about as happy as we make up our minds to be.”
Happiness is the result of personal choice and effort. You fight for happiness, strive for it, switch careers, build relationships, and sometimes even reinvent your lifestyle entirely as you uncover it. Why? Because you have to actively participate in the manifestations of your own joys and good fortunes – they are not ready-made for the taking; they are available for the making.
In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
The veterinarian told the blonde that her dog needed some exercise. "You need to make sure this dog runs around," the doctor said.
"Try playing a game of fetch with him."
"I can't play fetch with my dog," the blonde said.
"Why not?" the doctor asked.
"Because," she replied, "He can't throw."
Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you have to say. Best friends listen to what you don't say!
After a particularly poor game of golf, a popular club member skipped the clubhouse and started to go home. As he was walking to the parking lot to get his car, a policeman stopped him and asked, "Did you tee off on the sixteenth hole about twenty minutes ago?"
"Yes," the golfer responded.
"Did you happen to hook your ball so that it went over the trees and off the course?"
"Yes, I did. How did you know?" he asked.
"Well," said the policeman very seriously, "Your ball flew out onto the highway and crashed through a driver's windshield. The car went out of control, crashing into five other cars and a fire truck. The fire truck couldn't make it to the fire, and the building burned down. So, what are you going to do about it?"
The golfer thought it over carefully and responded...
"I think I'll close my stance a little bit, tighten my grip and lower my right thumb."
Money doesn't bring you happiness, but it enables you to look for it in more places.
My friend's mother is a proper Southern lady and a passionate gardener who spends hours outside with her plants. In her neighborhood, where she has lived most of her life, no one has fences and every yard is open to the next. Recently one of her longtime neighbors, an elderly man, moved away. "Are you going to miss him?" my friend asked.
"Actually I'm relieved," her mother replied. "Now I can bend over."
"Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed."
Bill had always been teased by his friends that his wife was more successful than he was. Some even went so far as to insinuate that he was overshadowed by her and henpecked. Bill had a sense of humor and always laughed it off.
One day, one of his fiends asked the tiresome question AGAIN, "Who wears the pants in your family?"
"I do," replied Bill. Then, after a pause, he added, "I also wash and iron them."
Everyone seems normal..... Until you get to know them.
He said: As a senior at St. Cloud State University in Minnesota, I often engage women psychology majors in heated discussions about male-female relationships. Once, my friend Shelly and I got into a hot debate about whether men or women make the larger sacrifice of their respective gender characteristics when they get married. To my surprise, Shelly agreed with me that men give up far more than women.
"You're right, Steve," she said. "Men generally give up doing their cleaning, their cooking, their grocery shopping, their laundry."
Every choice we make will either impact us positively or it can seriously have a negative affect on you. Choices are everything, you just have to be careful as to which one is going to help you or hurt you.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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