“How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them”
In three more days it will be 2014. 2013 has been a mixed bag for me, a lot of good things with a lot of health difficulties thrown in. I plan on doing what I can to make sure that 2014 is a healthy year. I, like so many others take stock at the end of one year and set some objectives for the next. Unfortunately over the years my resolutions soon faded from memory and I fell back into my traditional bad habits.
Someone said recently that he did not make resolutions he made plans, and while I have done better lately the stakes are higher this year so I too will make measurable plans.
I decided I would look to see if I could find some helpful hints and I found these in an article by Dana Dratch that you might find of use as well. I have edited the article due to space limits.
9 ways to keep your New Year's resolutions
1. Make it something you really want. Don't make it a resolution that you "should" want or what other people tell you to want. It has to fit with your own values.
2. Limit your list to a number you can handle. "It's probably best to make two or three resolutions that you intend to keep," says O'Connor. That way, you're focusing your efforts on the goals you truly want.
3. Be specific. "To be effective, resolutions and goals need to be pretty specific," says O'Connor. Jettison the amorphous "exercise more," in favor of "I'm working out at the gym Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 5:30 p.m."
4. Automate. Automating financial goals can maximize your odds for success without you having to do anything, says Keith Ernst, director of research for the Center for Responsible Lending in Durham, N.C. If your goal is to save $3,000 this year, calculate the amount out of each check, then arrange to have it automatically deposited into your savings account each time you get paid, says Ernst.
5. Make a plan. Rather than stating one daunting goal, create a series of smaller steps to reach it. "Have an action plan," O'Connor says. "Figure out exactly what you want to do."
6. Be prepared to change some habits. One reason that resolutions fail is people don't change the habits that sabotage them, says Rosalene Glickman. One potent approach is to realize that all you ever have is the present moment. So ask what you can do now that will get you closer to your goal, says Glickman.
7. Write down the goal and visualize it regularly. Writing and visualizing are effective tools for fulfilling a goal because they fix it firmly in the subconscious. And if you write down your goals, put them in a prominent place where you'll view them frequently, such as on the fridge or on your desk.
8. To tell or not to tell? Having someone hold you accountable can be a powerful tool. "In general, making a public commitment adds motivation," O'Connor says. Skip the naysayers, but if you have one or two people in your life who will act as cheerleaders or coaches, share the goal with them.
9. Forgive yourself. If you fall off the wagon, jump back on. Many people fall into the trap of believing that if they stumble, they should give up, says O'Connor. The truth is you don't have to wait for next year or for some magic moment. Instead, realize that "slipping is part of the process," O'Connor says. Then, get back to your goals.
The changes in our life must come from the impossibility to live otherwise than according to the demands of our conscience not from our mental resolution to try a new form of life.
Remember the kids, they taught us:
Never tell your little brother that you're not going to do what your mom told you to do.
—Hank, Age 12
Listen to your brain. It has lots of information.
— Chelsey, Age 7
Never dare your little brother to paint the family car.
—Philip, Age 13
Life is only as long as you live it.
"So," Jane asked the detective she had hired. "Did you trail my husband?"
"Yes ma'am. I did. I followed him to a bar, to an out-of-the-way restaurant and then to an apartment."
A big smile crossed Jane's face. "Aha! I've got him!" she said gloating. "Is there any doubt what he was doing?"
"No ma'am." replied the sleuth, "It's pretty clear that he was following you."
An oral contract isn't worth the paper it's written on.
There once was a 94-year-old nun in the 1890's whose worn-out body began to surrender. Her doctor prescribed for her a shot of whiskey three times a day, to relax her. However, not to be lured into worldly pleasures, she huffily declined. But her mother superior knew the elderly sister loved milk. So she instructed the kitchen to spike the milk three times a day.
Eventually, the elderly pious one approached her final hour. As several sisters gathered around her at bedside, the mother superior asked if she wanted to leave them any words of wisdom.
"Oh, yes," she replied. "Never sell that cow!"
Recession: A period when you go without things your grandparents never heard of.
A saleswoman is driving toward home in northern Arizona when she sees an elderly American Indian woman walking on the side of the road. As the trip had been long and quiet, she stops the car and the Indian woman gets in.
After a bit of small talk, the Indian woman notices a brown bag on the front seat. "What's in the bag?" she asks.
"It's a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband," says the saleswoman.
The Indian woman is silent for a moment, then says, "Good trade."
He who would go a hundred miles should consider ninety-nine as halfway.
Master Sergeant Alfie was a thirty-year Army veteran now assigned to a training battalion and tough as nails. He seemed to have no thought whatsoever about how others responded to his cut-and-dried military manner.
One day he assembled the training battalion and announced, "Private Monroe, take one step forward." Private Monroe took one step forward, and the sergeant bellowed, "Private Monroe. Report to the chaplain; your mother just died." Monroe just crumbled and fainted dead away from shock.
Later that day, the battalion commander chewed out the master sergeant: "You're going to have to learn something about TACT. You just can't yell at a man and tell him his mother just died. The next time you're called on for this duty, you'd better do it in a more compassionate way."
It just so happened that the very next day, another soldier's mother died, and the MSGT assembled the troops again. "All you whose mother is living" he shouted, "take one step forward. NOT SO FAST, TAYLOR!"
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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