No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
Barbara de Angelis
As you know I am a big believer in our ability to choose or at least influence the quality of our lives. Sometimes people think I feel happiness is due in part to our ability to ignore reality by not accepting the pain or reversals that everyone experiences as the years go by. I don’t belie that at all, what I believe is that we have the ability to focus on the positive while accepting the negative and then moving on.
To some extent I also think that our happiness depends to a large extent on how we define it and our ability to appreciate what we have and what we choose to want. No matter what yesterday provided each new day allows us to put the dad days behind us and move on to a better day and if yesterday was good we can look forward to more of the same or something even better. I guess again it boils down to our old friend “attitude,” if I choose to see each new day as an opportunity rather than an obligation I can focus on liking people, laughing some while enjoying a lot, doing something worthwhile and best of all making a new friend.
What Happy People Have In Common
So, what makes happy people, well, happy people? It seems that happy people tend to have a few things in common. Very happy people are found to be very social, and have stronger romantic and social relationships with others than less-happy people. Research has also found happy people to be energetic, decisive, creative, social, trusting, loving, and responsive. Rather than being strongly linked to external characteristics like socioeconomic status, gender or age, happiness is more positively associated with having a philosophical view of life, using laughter and humor, being able to relate to others, having problem-solving skills, engaging in meaningful pursuits and leisure activities, living in a positive environment, and maintaining a well-balanced lifestyle.
What about you? Are you ready to have a good day? If so great, if not why not? Recently I found this description of what happy people have in common, fortunately I see most of you belong to the group.
As I go through all kinds of feelings and experiences in my journey through life -- delight, surprise, chagrin, dismay -- I hold this question as a guiding light: "What do I really need right now to be happy?" What I come to over and over again is that only qualities as vast and deep as love, connection and kindness will really make me happy in any sort of enduring way.
A man answers the phone and has the following conversation:
"Yes, mother, I've had a hard day. Gladys has been most difficult - I know I ought to be more firm, but it is hard. Well, you know how she is."
"Yes, I remember you warned me. I remember you told me that she was a vile creature who would make my life miserable and you begged me not to marry her."
"You were perfectly right."
"You want to speak with her? All right." He looks up from the telephone and calls to his wife in the next room:
"Gladys, your mother wants to talk to you!"
As long as I can remember, I've had amnesia.
While filling out an employment application, a man paused over this question:
"Person to notify in case of an accident."
Finally he wrote, "Anybody in sight."
The trouble with being punctual is that nobody's there to appreciate it.
An Irish political prisoner escaped from jail by digging a tunnel that emerged to a school playground. As he emerged from the hole into the open air, he couldn't help shouting over to a small girl.
"I'm free ! I'm free !!"
"That's nothing" she replied "I'm four!"
"I want to know what good is a web search engine that returns 324,909,188 'matches' to my key word. That's like saying, "Good news, we've located the product you're looking for. It's on Earth."
Two women were paired together as partners in a club tournament and met on the putting green for the first time.
After introductions, the first golfer asked, "What's your handicap?"
"Oh, I'm a scratch golfer," the other replied.
"Really!" exclaimed the first woman, suitably impressed that she was paired up with her.
"Yes, I write down all my good scores and scratch out the bad ones!
Anything preying on my mind would starve to death.
Asked by his third-grade teacher to spell "straight." The boy did so correctly.
"Now," said the teacher, "what does it mean?"
When somebody tells you nothing is impossible, ask him to dribble a football.
"According to a brand new report, this year airline passengers have been subject to longer delays and ruder service than ever before. When asked about it, a spokesperson for the airlines said, 'Shut up and get back in line!'"
"I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances."
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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