"A negative focus can result in our entirely missing the possibilities placed in our path."
Anne Wilson Schaef
One of the challenges facing people my age is the almost daily loss of old friends and acquaintances. Yesterday as an example I learned that an old and dear friend had died, he was 95 and had lived a rich and fruitful life. While I morn his loss I will always appreciate all the fond memories he left with me.
In addition I learned that a former next door neighbor had passed as well. We shared common ground for many decades and I was sorry to learn of her passing.
I have found that the best antidote for grief is focusing on pleasant memories and maintaining a positive attitude.
How To Change Your Attitudes
Author: Catherine Pulsifer
Your outlook on life, basically your attitude can determine your happiness and success in life. Attitude is a mindset, how you view your world. Do you see the positive or do you focus on the negative? Our perception of the events in our life, and how we regard these events can be attributed to our attitude. How can you change your attitude? - Focus on the good; do not dwell on the negative. By doing this you start changing attitudes to a positive attitude rather than a negative attitude.
Change Yourself First
Can you change attitudes of other people? Again, I would refer to the saying, "you can't change other people, you can only change yourself". You will end up becoming very frustrated if you try and change other people. Remember, you can only change yourself and how you deal with that individual.
The story below is a story of attitude. The individual in this story could have easily developed a "poor me" attitude, but instead he chose to focus on what he can do, his attitude reflects what a positive outlook on life can be like.
"Now I look beyond what I can't do and focus on what I CAN." Robert M. Hensel
Too often in life, we focus on the things we cannot do. Sometimes we cannot do things because of financial limitations, health limitations, family limitations, educational limitations, and so on. Sometimes, we end up limiting ourselves from achieving success in reaching our goals. We end up having a negative attitude which limits our ability to achieve success and happiness in our life.
Through the Internet, I have recently met an individual whom I found to be very inspiring. He has a positive attitude, he focuses on what he can do. To name a few of his accomplishments:
- he has set a world record, and is in the Guinness Book of World Records
- he is an international poet with over 900 publications
- he is the founder of Beyond Limitations Week
- he is an Ambassador for the Harvey Ball World Smile Foundation.
- he has created his own website, http://wheelierecord.tripod.com/index.html and the list could go on!
Unstoppable Despite Adversity
The individual is Robert M. Hensel. You see, Robert was born spina bifida; a disability that affects your sense of balance and also has an impact on your kidneys. Robert could have easily used his disability to limit his achievements, yet he has accomplished more than many. His attitude and outlook on life is one that, for me, is inspiring! To quote Robert, "I have learned that limitations open doors that have been closed, showing other ways to meet our needs."
"You cannot force change in others, you can only inspire change in others by being your awesomely self."
Jill was really peeved! She was arguing with the druggist because her favorite cure-all could not be bought without a prescription.
"Look, lady. You can't have this without a prescription because it's a habit-forming drug."
"IT IS NOT!" yelled Jill. "I ought to know...I've been taking it regularly for seventeen years!"
People will believe you are confident in your successes if you keep the look of astonishment off your face.
"Dad, you gave me some terrible financial advice!"
"I did? What did I tell you?"
"You told me to put my money in that big bank and now, that big bank is in trouble."
"What are you talking about? That's one of the oldest, largest and most stable banks in the state. There must be some mistake."
"I don't think so. They just returned one of my checks with a note saying, 'Insufficient Funds.'"
Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.
England's West Country is known for its charming cottage-like shops. While visiting the area, my friend peered in through one window to see shelf upon shelf of interesting looking books. So, she went inside.
A woman appeared through a beaded curtain and asked, "Can I help you?"
"No, just browsing," said my friend.
"Fine," came the reply. "But, just so you know, around here, most people knock before entering someone's home."
Enjoy the little things, for one day, you may look back and realize they were the big things.
The psychiatrist was not expecting the distraught stranger who staggered into his office and slumped into a chair. "You've got to help me. I'm losing my memory, Doctor," he sobbed. "I once had a successful business, a wife, home and family; I was a respected member of the community. But all that's gone now. Since my memory began failing, I've lost the business - I couldn't remember my clients' names. My wife and children have left me, too; and why shouldn't they - some nights I wouldn't get home until four or five in the morning. I'd forget where I lived...And it's getting worse. Doctor - it's getting worse!"
"This is not an unusual form of neurosis," the psychiatrist said soothingly. "Now tell me, just how long ago did you first become aware of this condition?"
"Condition?" The man sat up in his chair. "What condition?"
Slow down and enjoy life. It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast, you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.
A minister was opening his mail one morning. Drawing a single sheet of paper from an envelope he found written on it only one word: "FOOL".
The next Sunday he announced, "I have known many people who have written letters and forgot to sign their name.
"But this week I received a letter from someone who signed his name and had forgotten to write a letter."
There are many ways to measure success; not the least of which is the way your child describes you when talking to a friend.
While working as a pediatric nurse, I had the difficult assignment of giving immunization shots to children. One day, I entered the examining room to give four-year-old, Lizzie, her shot. "No! No! No!" she screamed.
"Lizzie," her mother scolded. "That's not polite behavior."
At that, the girl yelled even louder, "No, thank you! No, thank you! No, thank you!"
"Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure."
Norman Vincent Peale
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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