"True happiness is to enjoy the present... without anxious dependence upon the future."
I think I shared with you that I have a good friend who is being treated for cancer. He has been going through some rough times in the process but through it all he maintains a positive attitude while focusing in on what is good in his life. He is a great example of the value of easing life’s burdens by focusing in on our personal ability to find happiness.
I recently discovered the writings of Gail Sobotkin who shares my friend’s view of life. I have provided some of her thoughts below. We should not wait until the time comes that our unhappiness causes us to look for alternatives to our misery, we can start today to build a happy outlook on life.
Happiness is a Choice
I used to think that people who exuded joy and happiness were blessed with an easy life and had been spared hardships, but experience has taught me that happiness can be a conscious choice, regardless of one's circumstances. According to the dictionary, the word "choose" means to:
•select from a number of possibilities
•prefer or decide (to do something)
•make a choice
Mindful, conscious choices can bring happiness into our lives and help us feel empowered rather than overwhelmed by our current life circumstances. Focusing our attention on the present moment breathes positive energy into our lives and helps us let go of the way things were in the past.
During the last 22 years my husband suffered several heart attacks and I used to spend much of my time worrying about losing him. Adjusting to his diagnosis taught me the importance of focusing on each moment, and the futility and waste of spending the precious time we do have together worrying about what may occur in the future. Some days that's still a challenge especially when new health crises or issues arise, but I've learned to cope through mindful meditation that returns my focus to the present and by being grateful for the time we do get to spend together.
When we choose to become more mindful of the present, we feel lighter, brighter and ready to move on. We don't waste time focusing on the things that might happen, but rather focus on being grateful for the things we have in the present moment.
Seeking Our Highest Purpose is Key to Joy
We can all learn about highest purpose from the example that Mother Teresa gave us by the way she lived her life. Her life was devoted to tending the sick, poor and homeless, and we can also choose to honor our highest purpose by caring for our families, friends and strangers. We can engage in meaningful work whether through charity or paid employment. Even if we don't believe in God we can believe in having a purpose that goes beyond our own existence. I believe that doing so is key to our own joy.
"There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving and that's your own self."
At the local gas utility written orders are issued to change meters when they are old or malfunctioning. On the order sheet is a "remarks" section, where the service representative notes any problems that prevented the job from being completed. The most succinct explanation to come ever come back was: "DOG DOES NOT WANT METER TO BE CHANGED."
If you’re yearning for the good old days, just turn off the air conditioning.
- Griff Niblack
Karen: On the cover of a women's magazine, I saw the title: "Men's Secret Fear About Their Working Wives." I decided to get a first-hand account. I asked my husband, "What's your innermost fear about my working?"
Michelle: What did he say?
Karen: He said, "That you'll quit."
"According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful."
Isaac was out shopping in when he sees a sign in a window saying, 'JACOB'S CUSTOM MADE CLOTHING'. He's not sure whether to go in - it looks like an expensive shop. But Jacob, the owner, sees him hesitating and quickly invites him in.
"What are you looking for?"
"Good," said Jacob, "you've come to the right place. When we make a suit here, you'll be surprised at how we go about it. First, digital cameras take pictures of your every muscle and we download the pictures to a special computer to build up your image. Then we cultivate sheep in Australia to get the very best cloth. For the silk lining, we contact Japan for their silkworms, and we ask Japanese deep-sea divers to get the pearl buttons.
"B-b-bbut," said Isaac, "I need the suit for a Bar Mitzvah."
"You'll have it."
Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of man your wife would have preferred.
One morning a man came into the church on crutches. He stopped in front of the holy water, put some on both legs, and then threw away his crutches.
An altar boy witnessed the scene and then ran into the rectory to tell the priest what he'd just seen.
"Son, you've just witnessed a miracle!" the priest said. "Tell me where is this man now?"
"Flat on his butt over by the holy water!" the boy informed him.
The Grocery Bag Law - The candy bar you planned to eat on the way home from the market is hidden at the bottom of the grocery bag.
The veterinarian told the blonde that her dog needed some exercise. You need to make sure the dog runs around, the doctor said. Try playing a game of fetch.
"I can't play fetch with my dog," the blonde said.
"Why not?" the doctor asked.
"Because," she replied, "He can't throw!".
"We can go through our whole lives worrying about our future happiness, and totally miss where true peace lives- right here, right now."
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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