Write a lot, live a little, clear your mind. Make mistakes, be happy, live on edge, and enjoy the ride that life offers.
I have talked lately about how we might benefit if we gave ourselves more time to do things we like by setting priorities and eliminating some of the things we do that are of little value to our wellbeing. After talking to a friend of mine I realized that we also would do well to clean more than our desks, we also would benefit if we cleared our minds. When I went back in my archives I found this piece written by Kristie Blankenship that I saved. I think it is worth sharing with you. I have taken the liberty of editing it for the Daily.
Stop Doing These 7 Things Forever!
1. Over-thinking things. − How many times do you find yourself fixated on some thought or idea and you've thought about it so much that you have it totally out there like in fantasy world or something or get so worked up about something because you've imagined all sorts of imaginary happenings? Stop thinking so hard. Thinking about things is good, but only if you keep it balanced. Don't over think things.
2. Stuff my feelings. − There are different ways we all deal with our feelings. One way is we don't express them and just stuff them down inside. While it may be appropriate sometimes to not express our feelings and emotions, always stuffing them down inside without letting them out and expressing them is not healthy in more ways than one. Without going into a lot of detail, for the purpose of this article, let's just say that we all need to express our emotions in a healthy way. If you need to cry, just do it. Don't feel ashamed because you feel however you feel. Emotions are just emotions. What you do with those emotions is what counts. Choose to deal with them in a healthy way.
3. Filling up all your time slots-juggling too many things at once. − Okay. So, I imagine we've all been guilty of this -- being WAY too busy. Do you fill up all your time slots on your calendar with stuff that keeps you so busy you have no time to relax? Stop. I know we all have responsibilities and things we have to do to keep things going, but there is a point when too much is just too much! Let some of it go. If you really want peace and happiness in your life, you have to find more time for yourself and spending time doing the things you love and being with those you love to be around.
4. Tolerating stuff from other people. − We all have a personal space around us that we don't like anyone to cross. The closer we are to someone usually the closer we let them in. That being said, there are some things that we just shouldn't tolerate at all and sometimes we have to set boundaries. I refuse to stand there and listen to someone criticize me and talk down to me or go on and on about how they disagree with my decisions or actions. There are some things we have to take a stand for. If someone is always making you feel bad every time you get around them, either set some boundaries with them and gently let them know you won't put up with it or get some new friends.
5. Creating or tolerating drama. − I hate drama! I know a lot of people that can't survive without always causing drama or being involved with someone else's drama. Why would I want all the stress it brings? If you are involved in creating or tolerating drama, you aren't going to find any peace. Most of the time, all drama does is accuse, point fingers, exaggerate, and make people feel bad.
6. Trying to change people. − Why do we try to change people anyway? Is it because we don't appreciate them for who they are? We are all different. None of us are the same. You do realize don't you that you aren't perfect either? I'm sure there are things about you they aren't that crazy about either. Let's just give everyone the benefit of the doubt and accept them for who they are.
7. Own other people's problems! − Raise your hand if you don't have any problems of your own. No hands? Imagine that! What we have to realize is that we have our own problems, which are enough for us to handle. Don't become so engrossed in other people's problems that you get stressed out, ill, find yourself thinking about it nonstop, and basically have unknowingly placed yourself right in the midst of the problem when you don't need to be there. If they ask for your help, don't over obligate yourself. Help in any way you feel comfortable, but remember that the other person will only grow if they learn to handle their own problems.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”
Corrie Ten Boom
My six-year-old grandson called his mother from his friend Charlie's house and confessed he had broken a lamp when he threw a football in their living room. "But, Mom," he said, brightening, "you don't have to worry about buying another one. Charlie's mother said it was irreplaceable."
When I get real bored, I like to drive down town and get a great parking spot, then sit in my car and count how many people ask me if I'm leaving.
An amateur photographer was invited to dinner with friends and took along a few pictures to show the hostess. She looked at the photos and commented "These are very good! You must have a good camera."
He didn't make any comment, but, as he was leaving to go home he said "That was a really delicious meal! You must have some very good pots."
Marriages are made in heaven. But then again, so are thunder and lightning.
For months Bill had been Lynn's devoted admirer. Now, at long last, he had collected up sufficient courage to ask her the most momentous of all questions. "There are quite a lot of advantages to being a bachelor," Bill began, "but there comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol; whom one can treat as one's absolute own; who will be kind and faithful when times are hard; who will share one's joys and sorrows."
To his delight, Bill saw a sympathetic gleam in Lynn's eyes. Then she nodded in agreement. Finally, Lynn responded, "I think it's a great idea! Can I help you choose which puppy to buy?"
I have to exercise in the morning before my brain figures out what I'm doing.
A city man goes on vacation, in the autumn, for a color tour in the Midwest. Stopping one night at a small tavern for a meal and a beer, he regales the waitress with tales of his adventures, and his amazement, not only about the beautiful colors, but about how many flocks of geese he'd seen, flying south for the winter.
The gray-haired tavern owner comes over, and says, "Yup, those geese are amazing creatures."
"How do you mean?" asks the man.
"Well," the owner explains as he pulls out a chair.
"That 'V' formation they fly in is something they evolved over tens of thousands of years, to allow them to go further distances when they migrate."
"Really?" asks the man.
"Yup," says the owner.
"The strongest flyer would take the point, and the other geese fall in formation in his airstream, to allow them to relax a bit, and not have to work so hard."
"That's amazing," says the man.
"Yup," the owner goes on. "And when the point bird gets tired, it'd fall back, and another, well rested goose would take over the point."
"Wow," says the man. "I never knew that."
"And, did you notice," the owner asks, "that one leg of that 'V' was always longer than the other?"
"Well, now that I think about it, yes I did," says the man.
"Why is that?"
"Well," the owner grins, as he gets up. "It's got more geese in it."
We can only help make our lives and our world more peaceful, when we ourselves feel peace. Peace already exists within each of us, if we only allow ourselves to feel its comfort. Peace of mind begins when we stop thinking about how far we have to go, or how hard the road has been, and just let ourselves feel peace. Peace of mind gives us the strength to keep trying and keep walking along the path that we KNOW is right for our lives.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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