To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.
Thich Nhat Hanh
Why is it that so many people are better than they think they are? I honestly believe that many of the folks I meet who seem depressed and discouraged and those that walk around with a chip on their shoulder needing to prove their worth at every turn have little to no self-esteem. I often spend hours with new and old friends reviewing their past activities, their likes and dislikes and their unrecognized accomplishments and you know what? They are almost always surprised how good they really are.
It is tragic that so many of us spend our lives letting external and internal criticism steal from ourselves our ability to enjoy our true worth. What makes it especially sad is that most often the criticism is either unjustified or not worth our taking seriously.
I think I have told you before that my philosophy in recent years has been to hold nothing back, be what I am while doing the best I can and if the critics don’t like it that’s up to them. This is as good as I get and that is OK with me. I refuse to let others pull me down. That is my choice, what is yours?
Here is an article written by Nando Pelusi, Ph.D. that I like I hope you will too.
How to feel better about who you are.
If you're displeased with yourself, both mentally and physically, it's not so mysterious that you're falling into two common cognitive traps: perfectionism and self-downing. Feeling better about who you are as a person means talking to yourself respectfully and rationally. You wouldn't speak so harshly to your worst enemy. Calling yourself names doesn't help, and only makes things worse. Fortunately, there are some issues you can address to counteract this tendency.
Perfectionism has many aspects, including the valuable desire to "do better," "look better," and generally keep to high standards. So far, so good. However, since even Olympic gold medalists fall short of perfection most of the time, we'd better accept that perfection simply doesn't exist. Striving toward betterment is great. The quest motivates us, and keeps us on a good path for the long run. But the idea that you can and should attain perfection will crimp your style, stunt your growth, and make you miserable. The solution, fortunately, is within your power: Talk gently and rationally to yourself about your goal and give up the need for perfection.
Secondly, the self-downing habit is a facet of perfectionism that also makes you do less well and contributes to your feeling badly about yourself. Why include a rating of your entire self (your very being) for having trouble in one of your classes? You're making your performance at this task, at this time, a measure of your worth as a person—and you don't have to.
It's much better to keep your high standards, and give up the idea that you have to be perfect. Scratch the idea that if you're not a sparkly Brangelina, you are therefore totally undesirable and incapable. You'll start to do much better in many ways when you get off your own back and focus on what you can control.
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.
Malcolm S. Forbes
The Ferrari Formula 1 Team fired their entire pit crew yesterday. The announcement followed Ferrari's decision to take advantage of the British governments 'Work for the Dole' scheme and employ unemployable youth. The decision to hire them was brought on by a recent documentary on how unemployed Liverpool youths were able to remove a set of wheels in less than 6 seconds without proper equipment, whereas Ferrari's existing crew could only do it in 8 seconds with millions of pounds worth of high tech gear.
This was thought to be an excellent, yet bold move, by Ferrari Management. As most races are won and lost in the pits, Ferrari would have an advantage over every team. However, Ferrari got more than they bargained for at the crew's first practice session, not only were the new Pit Crew able to change the tires in under 6 seconds but within 12 seconds they had re-sprayed, retagged and sold the vehicle over to the MacLaren Team for four bottles of Stella and an old Nike shell-suit.
Rudeness is a weak imitation of strength.
NEW INVENTIONS BY ……
-- The water-proof towel
-- Glow in the dark sunglasses
-- Submarine screen doors
-- A book on how to read.
-- Inflatable dart boards
-- A dictionary index.
-- Powdered water
-- Pedal-powered wheel chairs
-- Waterproof tea bags
-- Zero proof alcohol
-- Reuseable ice cubes
If it's true that we are here to help others, then what exactly are OTHERS here for?
Heather and Marcy hadn't seen each other in awhile, so they decided to meet for lunch. The talk naturally got around to their respective love lives. Marcy confided that there really wasn't anyone special in her life. Heather, on the other hand, was beaming about the new man she had found. "He's perfect. He's handsome, and last night when we went out to dinner, he said the four little words I've been waiting to hear a man say to me!"
"He said 'will you marry me'?" Marcy asked.
Heather replied, "No, he said 'put your money away'."
Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.
Joe's wife likes to sing so she decided to join the church choir. From time to time she would practice while she was in the kitchen preparing dinner. Whenever she would start in on a song, Joe would head outside to the porch.
His wife, with hurt feelings, said, "What's the matter, Joe? Don't you like my singing?"
Joe replied, "Honey, I love your singing, but I just want to make sure the neighbors know I'm not beating you."
The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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