Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
I honestly believe that the main thing that prevents many of us from finding more enjoyment and success in our lives is fear. I recently read the article I am going to share with you today and recognized how some of my fears early in life slowed me down.
Thankfully as I aged I became more fearless or less aware, but whatever it was I am glad that what barriers there might have been were removed. I am still amazed and grateful for all I was allowed to do over my long life.
Here is the article, I again had to do some minor editing but I believe in it’s content.
10 Fears and Steps to Resolve Them
By Tess Marshall
1. Fear of intimacy - You are afraid of commitment, allowing others to get close to you or you fear getting too close to others. Action step: Honor who you are, take off your mask, be vulnerable and reveal the real you. Commit to more offline face-to-face connection.
2. Fear of public speaking - This is the fear of humiliation, being ridiculed, looking stupid and making a mistake or being judged. Action step: Join Toastmasters. Research, write and prepare your first speech. Practice, practice, practice. Give your first speech in front of family or close friends. Don’t worry, you won’t die.
3. Fear of forgiving others - You fear being hurt again. You’re attached to your story and being right. You think if you forgive someone, they win and you lose. Action step: Stop reliving what happened. Write down the payoff for your resentment. Be willing to let go of the past. Forgive, bless and move on.
4. Fear of success - You fear making mistakes. You fear the added responsibility that success will bring. You fear people may expect something different from you.
Action step: Figure out your big why and remind yourself of it often. View mistakes as learning opportunities. Learn to expect the best. Believe that the best is yet to come.
5. Fear of networking - You are uncomfortable being in groups. It’s a fear of not feeling good enough, smart enough, or very physically attractive. Networking is more than being social. It’s about building relationships and connection. It’s a skill to be learned and practiced.
6. Fear of being broke - You believe in lack and scarcity. You focus on not having enough. Action step: Stop paying attention to all forms of negative media or you’ll end of believing the world is coming to an end. Believe the world is plotting to do you good. Look for proof.
7. Fear of not being good enough - You feel separate from and less than others. This kind of suffering comes from comparing yourself to others. Put yourself on equal ground. Action step: Own your brilliance and greatness. Build your self-confidence by doing scary things. You don’t have to change a thing to be good enough.
8. Fear of rejection -This fear begins in childhood. When someone rejects you, it’s about them, how you react is about you. Action step: Go back in your mind and tell your younger self that everything will be OK. Figure out how you reject yourself. Learn to treasure who you are.
9. Fear of learning something new - You feel inadequate. You don’t believe that you’re capable. You believe that doing new things has to be a struggle. Action step: Make a list of your past successes. Get a mentor. Learn something fun. Give yourself permission to be a beginner.
10. Fear of failure -Fear of failure is fear change and fear of the unknown. If you don’t act, you’ll miss out on marvelous opportunities. Every successful person has experienced failure.
Action step: View life as a bold and wild adventure. Life is stuffed with beauty and tragedy. Stay present and breathe through it all. Hold onto your seat and enjoy the ride.
“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.”
It is important that people of my generation stay abreast of medical terminology so we can speak intelligently with our medical caregivers. As I service of our daily I have provided this helpful list of terms.
Benign......................What you be after you be eight.
Bacteria....................Back door to cafeteria.
Barium......................What doctors do when patients die.
Catscan.....................Searching for Kitty.
Cauterize...................Made eye contact with her.
Coma........................A punctuation mark.
D&C.........................Where Washington is.
Dilate.............. .......To live long.
Fibula.............. ........A small lie.
Impotent...................Distinguished, well known.
Labor Pain...............Getting hurt at work.
Nitrates....................Cheaper than day rates.
Recovery Room.......Place to do upholstery.
Rectum....................Pretty near killed him.
Terminal Illness.......Getting sick at the airport.
Urine.......................Opposite of you're out
The art of medicine consists in amusing the patient while nature cures the disease.
During a recent vacation in Las Vegas, a man went to see a popular magic show. After one especially amazing feat, a man from the back of the theater yelled, "How'd you do that?"
"I could tell you, sir", the magician answered, "But then I'd have to kill you."
After a short pause, the man yelled back, "Ok, then... just tell my wife!"
Make the most of today. Translate your good intentions into actual deeds.
Little Rodney, 4 years old, walked down the beach, and as he did, he spied a matronly woman sitting under a beach umbrella on the sand. He walked up to her and asked, "Are you a Christian?"
"Yes," she replied.
"Do you read your Bible every day?"
She nodded her head, "Yes."
"Do you pray often?" the boy asked next, and again she answered, "Yes."
With that he asked his final question, "Will you hold my quarter while I go swimming?"
Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you.
Years ago a soldier was asked to report to headquarters for assignment. The sergeant said: "We have a critical shortage of typists. I'll give you a little test. Type this," he ordered, giving him a pamphlet to copy and a sheet of paper, and pointing to a desk across the room that held a typewriter and an adding machine. The soldier, quite reluctant to become a clerk typist, made a point of typing very slowly, and saw to it that his work contained as many errors as possible.
The sergeant gave the typed copy only a brief glance. "That's fine," he said. "Report for work at 8 tomorrow." "But aren't you going to check the test?" the prospective clerk asked. The sergeant grinned.
"You passed the test," he replied, "when you sat down at the typewriter instead of at the adding machine."
Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.
Thich Nhat Hanh
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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